Since 2005 Steve has been a full-time therapist and coach. He has trained in and studied Hypnosis, PSTEC™ , NLP, EFT (Tapping), Matrix Reimprinting, Life Coaching and Business Coaching, leading him to create his own system called Mindshift Engineering which can help you identify and change the deep-rooted emotions, beliefs and behaviours that have got you to where you are, and replace them with new ones that suit your goals.
This can involve anything from general anxiety, depression, sadness, an irrational fear or help with the emotional aspects of weight loss and fitness through to performance issues in the corporate environment or sports arena… or you might not even know what the problem is but just have a “feeling”.
Even when you don’t know what the problem is.
Unlike conventional “therapy” we often work “blind”, without you even having to tell us what the problem is, which can be wonderful if the problem is too painful or embarrassing to even think about. It also frees up the subconscious mind to work on things that it might normally shy away from, or keep hidden.
And with one particular technique it’s common for changes to happen entirely outside of consciousness, where neither you nor us ever know what the problem was!
The feelings just go away…
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Putting it all together
Combining these skills with our Personal Fitness, Nutrition and Motivational Coaching also means that we can help you make whatever physical changes you desire, but experience has also taught us that many physical conditions, illnesses and pains have an emotional “root”.
Everyone knows that stress leads to illness, but have you stopped to consider how significant that belief is?
An emotional reaction to stress can cause physical problems in the body.
Sure, getting some exercise and eating well are important but unless you also take into account your emotional health, and for many people spiritual health too, you are only taking care of half the problem.
Here are some examples
Because there are roughly 7 billion people on planet earth, and every single person is an individual with their own distinct mixture of problems and desires, you could say that there are 7 billion ways in which we can help.
Luckily for us the problems that people experience and the desires they have can be described using what we call the BABE system
Whatever problem or desire you have it will fit into a mixture of one or more of these categories.
Here are some example situations, obviously these are very over-simplified but we know you’ll get the point.
How many of them sound familiar?
Fear of flying.
Your fear is an emotion, which is more than likely due to an experience you had at some point (whether you remember it or not) which led to your subconscious mind forming a belief that planes are dangerous.
This emotion/belief then causes actions such as hanging on to the seat or other people, crying or worse “anti-social behaviour” and possibly bodily reactions such as shaking, sweating or palpitations.
At some point in your life you had an experience that lead your subconscious mind to determine that the world was not safe – belief.
This leads to fear or anxiety in particular situations – emotion.
You feel these feelings in your stomach or get sweaty hands –bodily reactions.
Due to your fear or anxiety you now avoid those situations – actions.
You feel that you are overweight and nothing you do seems to work – belief (you might think it’s a fact, but trust us it’s a belief).
This makes you unhappy – emotion.
This unhappiness leads you to emotional over-eating – actions.
Over-eating stalls your weight loss –bodily reactions
In fact, did you know that weight control is so deeply rooted in our emotions, beliefs and behaviours that trying to lose weight by diet or exercise alone is almost guaranteed to fail?
The gym flip-flop
We call this the gym flip-flop because so many people flip-flop (alternate, or swing) between going to the gym and just paying the subscriptions without actually attending…
For this one imagine a set of scales, or balance, like the scales of justice.
On one side of the scales are all your emotions and beliefs relating to why you would not go to the gym.
These could be due to things like bad experiences in PT at school, the cost, the feeling of boredom while on a treadmill, the fear of discomfort or the fear of embarrassment at wearing lycra in public.
On the other side are the emotions and beliefs that you should get fit, lose a bit of weight or spend less time on video games.
While there is more weight on the negative side of the scales you exhibit the action of not going to the gym.
Over time as you feel more and more unhealthy and spend more time thinking about it you gradually apply weight to the other side of the scales. Perhaps a big weight, like a scary doctor’s visit or the inability to play ball with your grandchildren, get dropped on the scales. (emotions and beliefs)
Eventually however your scales tip the other way and you exhibit the action of going to the gym.
However… remember all that weight on the other side?
Over time, as you start to feel better and you scratch that itch of gym attendance the weights on that side of the scales get lighter and drop off. After all, that doctor’s visit was ages ago and doesn’t seem nearly as scary now (emotion) and you went cycling the other day without feeling sick.
So eventually all your reasons for attending fade until the weight on the other side of the scales tips you back towards non-attendance and you start to find reasons for staying at home.
Gradually, after staying at home for a while you start to feel bad again, or guilty for spending all that money on a gym membership you’re not using and the weights start piling back on the attendance side of the scales.
Eventually it tips and off you go again, flip-flop, flip-flop.
Quite simply if you have any emotion, belief, behaviour or physical situation that you want to change we can help you do it.
Our expertise covers personal change, personal performance, sports performance and business performance, call us on +44 1534 863141 or email [email protected] for a free consultation.